Posted: August 3, 2010 in Love
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What is love to you? If you would walk out on the street and ask people what love is for them, you will probably end up with many different answers. Love can be interpreted in many ways.

It can be the deep and protective love a parent has for a child.
It can be the affectionate love for a beloved pet.
It can be the profound love for a family.
It can be the genuine love for close friends.
It can be the all-consuming hormonal passion of the first teenage crush.
It can be the earnest love of a steadfast partner.
It can be the bottomless, beautiful and heart clenching love between soul-mates.
… all of this and much more.

There are so many ways love can be manifested and felt. I do not believe there are any rights or wrongs when it comes to love. It shouldn’t matter whom you love. It shouldn’t matter if you love someone from the opposite or same sex. Or if you love someone from a different ethnic race. It shouldn’t matter if there is a age difference or physical limitations. I once read a passage in a book that caught my eye and it went something like this: There’s a lot of hurt in the world, there’s a lot of pain. Love is not wrong. Sometimes it doesn’t come in the form you’d expected, but love is never wrong.”

Can love last forever? Why not? I also believe that love between two persons that lasts a lifetime is increasingly rare. Some would argue that this is due to the dilution of morals in the modern world, how today’s society embraces change and almost encourages separation. This can very well be a contributing factor. I however think that it is very difficult to compare a lifelong relationship today to those in past times. For one – our life expectancy is much longer today. A lifelong commitment in ages past maybe lasted 25-35 years if people where lucky. Now we live longer lives. Another thing to consider is that many did not have a choice in staying in an unhappy relationships for religious, social or cultural reasons. Once you were in that was it. Leaving was not an option.

I do not think that people love any less today than in the past. A partnership is still something that requires an effort from both parties to work. It will always need comprises. If it doesn’t work out it is never simple but we do have the option to search anew. I do believe we can love more than one partner in a lifetime. Almost all of us go into a relationship believing that it will last forever and that is the way it should be, in my opinion. Hopefully all of us can say at the end of out lives, that we had the fortune to love with all our heart.

Do I believe love can last forever? I do believe it is possible. There are people that would say that love is painful and causes much grief. This is true. However love can also be all-encompassing, fierce and beautiful and it is one of the many things that defines us as humans. It inspires beauty and creates works of art.

Am I a romantic – yes.
Am I naive to believe there is someone out there for each and everyone – no, I am just hopeful.
Do I love – yes, my partner, my family and my friends.

What am I trying to say with this post, apart from being all mushy… just love with all your heart and never be afraid to search. You may stumble, despair and falter on the way and you might not be successful the first, second or even the third time but it is out there. With love you are invincible, without it you will fall.

I am not great at describing what love is for me but there are a few lines from a song that in many ways sums in up for me:

“… Have you ever been touched so gently you had to cry?…

… have you ever wished for an endless night?

Lassoed the moon and the stars and pulled that rope tight.

Have you ever held your breathe and asked yourself will it ever get better than tonight?”

“Glitter in the Air” by Pink.

  1. Daisy says:

    Wonderful!!! Love is great and love dont cares about anything but it self. Love is the greatest thing in the world!!

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